Some Pretty Big Questions I Think

Why why why?

Why do we rely on other people’s opinions of us for our happiness?

Why do we feel so offended when we dress up and look all pretty and get no compliments?

Why do some women feel so hurt when we put on sexy lingerie and our husband doesn’t get turned on by just looking at you?

Why do we hide our bodies and not buy perfectly good, warm, comfy sweaters because our “muffin” is showing?

Even when I wrote “sexy lingerie” into this article a recommended link popped up for a site that clearly objectifies women.

This whole idea drives me nuts! I just read a whole bunch of articles on the truth behind Victoria’s Secret’s Empowerment, and people’s responses to it as well as an article on the reality behind modesty (check out http://www.beautyredefined.net).

It’s not fair that we fight so hard to be noticed, to be looked at, to be complicated, when we are SO MUCH MORE THAN BODIES. So much more! Why do we keep giving into this idea? It’s not fair to ourselves and to others. In these articles I read, there have been studies done that even show that we are to afraid to lift our hands in class sometimes because we are worried about people looking at us (which I can attest to because it stops me a lot of the time). Even walking down the street we are always looking at others and are aware of them looking at us. That isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but when that defines everything we do, what we wear, when we are constantly tugging at our clothes and fixing our hair and checking out our reflections in the mirrors, THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THAT!

We need to fight back against this ladies! It’s time we accepted ourselves for who we are, and stopped letting our body/how we look define everything we do. I bet you a lot of our men would rather we spent more time with them and less time in salons and stores trying to be perfect for the man who ALREADY LOVES US then trying to perfect something that they already love exactly how it is. And if your man doesn’t love you exactly how you are, than maybe you are with the wrong man!

Also, why do we let it matter what people think about us when you can’t control it anyways? People will think what people will think. You will never have everyone’s approval so why fight for it? You are who you are, and we are more than just bodies to be photoshopped, to be primped and painted, to be stared at.

You feel like people are staring at your “muffin”? Who cares! It’s natural, it’s beautiful, you don’t need to give into this systematic definition of “perfection” that shifts and changes as quickly as the pointless fashion trends! Don’t give into this ideal. Come on women. Let’s step up and step out confident because of who we are EXACTLY how we are! Raise your eyes up off the ground. Don’t be ashamed of who you are or how you look.

The Young Generation’s Definition of Beautiful

Out of curiosity today I Googled define; beauty. This is the result Google came up with.

  1. Pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically.
  2. Of a very high standard; excellent.

 

Listed below this definition were a bunch of articles on what certain people find physically beautiful and how it varies between cultures. Most of the qualities listed were things that only can be changed through very expensive surgery, such as the stupidest things like nose length. Since when did nose length become a potential “attractive problem”? With things so detrimental it seems we are all doomed to “beautiful” failure. But are we?

Further down in the list of search results was an entry in urban dictionary. Now usually urban dictionary has crude entries that are more for laughs than anything. But this is what the highest voted definition of beauty was:

“Beautiful is a woman who has a distinctive personality, one who can laugh at anything, including themselves, who is especially kind and caring to others. She is a woman who above all else knows the value of having fun, and not taking life too seriously. She is a woman that you can trust and count on to brighten your day. She is a woman who can inexplicably make you feel really good just by being around her, and yet brings such great sadness when she is gone. She is a woman who I will never really get to know.” (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=beautiful)

These are some of the other entries:

“Anyone can be beautiful. It’s not about the clothing, the hair, the make-up. It’s about the way your smile radiates warmth, or dancing when you’re excited, no matter who’s watching. How to be beautiful? There are no guidelines, and anyone who tells you otherwise is telling you how to be pretty. Pretty and beautiful are not synonyms. Pretty is a but an adjective, whereas beautiful is so much more. Beautiful is a sunset, or the rain, or being in love. Beautiful is singing in the shower, running at night, and laughing out-loud. Beautiful is the way a flower smells, or the feel of their skin. I’m sorry if you disagree, but this is the best I could describe such a, well, beautiful word.”

“YOU.”

“Something that the human race has forgotton. Beautiful is often used synonymusly with hot or sexy. This is not the case.”

 

I’m not copying and pasting these to ignore commenting on them. I am only doing it so you can see that there are tons of people out there who look beyond physicality for beauty. Remember, these definitions are voted into their positions, and these are the top listed definitions. If you want proof then look for yourself. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=beautiful

I realize this is a short post, but I just wanted to show you all that maybe…our generation isn’t as lost as we think. Maybe we use the words “hot” and “sexy” so much because the word beautiful holds too much meaning to just be thrown out into conversation casually.

Let’s start aiming not for such simple compliments like “hot” or “sexy”, and go beyond that. Realize that being beautiful encompasses all that you are, and that it flows from the inside out. It is universal, and collective, and we can all be beautiful if we just let go of our worries of what others think of how we look and just embrace us exactly how we are, flaws and all.

 Start a revolution, start loving yourself!

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Not Just Another “Inner Beauty” Blog

A lot of you have probably stumbled across this blog expecting it to be another inner beauty blog. You would be mostly incorrect. I will never say inner beauty is not important, but neither will I claim that it is of the only importance. I too am a woman and understand the need to feel accepted, loved, and beautiful. Although I admit to that, I also know that feeling loved needs to be met with loving yourself. You only accept the love you feel you deserve. This blog is to help you view yourself in a better light, both inside and outside. If you want to join me on this journey of revolutionizing beauty, of refusing to listen to society’s definition of beauty when it’s so exclusive and unrealistic, then this blog is for you. Ready to destroy all the chains that affect practically every decision you make day to day? Ready to grow in confidence? Then let’s begin.Image